Why men have affairs?
Chat about a loaded topic that no one wants to talk about, this is it. Amusing thing, married dating have been going on from the beginning of the world. Affairs can be fraught with evils, cause sorrow, and other problems. In addition you must wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness matter, finances, age dissimilarity, spiritual education, shame, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I should identify an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married woman date.
Why do men have affairs? There are as many answers as there are people seeking affairs. I think generally though it is only the human nature, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
In nature we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and fun, and sex makes us escape the real world for a brief period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Some people are able to switch the wish on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another human being, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos people has erected against extra-marital affairs. For lots of individuals the yearnings will beat their fears and make them risk the rage of not only their family, but society also. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is extremely pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not injure your family or anyone else? You will need to minimize the danger you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest cluster, colossal in fact. There are many couples whose marriage is over, but they are happy in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the children to consider. Your money are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live jointly besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them completing the sex performance, at least not with their spouse. An marital affair at times solves the trouble while keeping the marriage whole.
Ignoring, sadly this is a ordinary reason I fear. One or the other, usually the gentleman is sexually neglecting his spouse for a tones of reasons. As a male I really appreciate you guys neglecting your girls and making them accessible to us guys of romance, making them “lonely wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, could be caring is not here, could be it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Maybe we have simply developed distantly, our general concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is conflicting of what you want. Could be I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The first reason people give is, they search for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for financial gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
Tags: affairs, Dating, dating married people, extramarital affairs, Marriage, married dating, seeking an affair